HOW TO COPE LIVING WITH A FATHER ONLY..

In this life we live now,there are so many different situations that happen..Although this is one situation which doesn't occur often but statistics say that 34% of children are raised by their fathers,shocking,huuuh?.. Well don't be shocked because thats life :)

Reasons why fathers end up raising the children themselves may be due to 3 reasons,

1.Ignorance by the mother.(this may be because the mother is drug addict,alcoholic or doesn't love the child at all)
2.Death of the mother.
3.Issues about having child rights between mother and father,then the father gets the child's rights through the court

Earlier this year, when i was doing my survey about this topic,i came to find out that 70% of the 34% being raised by their fathers have difficulties in communicating with their fathers about their personal issues..this happens when the child has reached his teenage age..



The child is usually scared to talk to his dad about his/her personal issues because he/she is scared that her dad will react in a bad way..

Well now i provide you with good points to all the single fathers raising their children and all the children going through situations like this..

The most important thing needed is,

1.LOVE.
                             FOR THE FATHERS..
                      
Love is the most important thing in life and we all can NOT live without it..A good father should be loving to his/her child..Since you the only parent in his life,you supposed to show love for your child and ALWAYS remind him/her that you love him,this will create a strong bondage between you and your child..

                                 FOR THE CHILD..
Always show love to your father..Remember he is the one who takes care of you,so always be loving to your father..and remember whatever he does for you,just know that he loves you..


2.LISTENING..
                     FOR THE FATHER..
This is the most important part of how to cope living with a father only..Fathers!!Always listen to what your children are telling you..Listening doesn't mean you follow what they say but HEAR them out..Listen what they are saying because if you dont listen to them,they made up rebelling and in the future they turn out to be not good people..
70% of the 34% being raised by fathers who don't listen to them,end up rebelling and they engage in bad activities like drugs,alcoholism,e.t.c..
So fathers,if you want your children to grow up well,ALWAYS,hear out their problems or suggestions..


                       FOR THE CHILD..
This goes to the child,especially teens..Always listen to your father.whatever he tells you listen to him because he has good intentions for you and doesnt want you to become a useless person in the future,so always listen to them,and keep in mind what you are always told...


3.FATHERS BE STRICT BUT AT THE SAME TIME BE LENIENT..
Fathers,be strict to your children..Dont let them be out late at night,make sure they hang out with good friends,and dont give them too much freedom..As you know,SPARE THE ROD,SPOIL THE CHILD..So dont give them too much freedom which may end up destroying their future..

Also at the same DONT BE TOO HARD on them..Give them time to play and let them enjoy their life carefully..Mistakes some fathers make is they think by being harsh on the child or being strict on him will turn him/her to be a good person..NO!!! That will even turn him to be worse because when the child gets a chance of having alittle bit of freedom,he/she may go wild and do crazy stuff which may lead them to e.g if its a daughter,getting pregnant.e.tc.. 

 always give the child a space to breathe and remember,WORK WITH NO PLAY,MAKES JACK A DULL BOY.. so always be strict but at the same time,lenient..
4.BEING OPEN TO EACH OTHER..
Fathers and their children should be open to each other..Inorder for children to be open to their fathers,their fathers should assure their children that they wunt be mad at them or be furious..Statistics show that most fathers usually get mad at their young teenage daughters when they hear they have boyfriends..



Well the question is WHY do they get angry??Well,the most common answer is,they too young,they dont want them to get pregnant,they dont want them to get STD'S. All this is true,BUT, why prevent a young teen from growing and enjoying his/her teen years?

When i say this i dont mean the father should let the child have sex or be crazy,BUT why dont you as a parent ADVISE YOUR CHILD on how to be in a teen relationship? Advise her that you can be in a relationship but you take care.Instill in her good behaivour about relationships,so that when she grows up she comes to know whats good in a relationship and whats bad..
And for children,if you have any problems disturbing you,open up to your father,dont hide it because it will hurt you and can cause other problems as well.

5.WHAT NOT TO DO:
                                     BY FATHERS:
Fathers,the mistake you do is by not letting your teenage children,especially DAUGHTERS to not have boyfriends..Statistics show that daughters living with single fathers who dont allow them to have boyfriends,end up being the first to have sex when they are 13 and above,get unwanted pregnancies and some even getting sexually infected diseases..THE QUESTION IS WHY??

Well,when teens are on their puberty stage,they become rebellious,if you oppose them about something then they will want to oppose you..so since fathers become very strict and harsh on them so that they don't have boyfriends,well when the kids get a chance of meeting up with guys,they just go crazy and want to try bad things,and this leads to the unwanted problems..

So in my opinion,i think parents should give their kids a little freedom and enjoy their teen years because also the same father who is denying the kid to have a teen relationship,HIMSELF,had LOTS of girlfriends in his teen years! :) So fathers,just be slow on your children and let them live their life and grow IF YOU LOVE THEM and dont want to have a GRANDSON soon :D

                                   FOR CHILDREN:
And us For children,dont handle matters with anger because you will regret it in the future..just be calm and relaxed in decision making..if you think your father will not hear out your problems,just talk to your teacher or older classmates,they may help you out.


6.GOD..
Fathers always pray to GOD..tell HIM to protect you daughters or sons from evil and all bad temptations.Remember,you not with your children 24/7 so there is a possiblity of anything happening..So always pray to THE ALMIGHTY GOD and HE will hear your prayers because He is the only one who can protect them from evil.


And as for children,always remember to pray for your father..Remember he is the only parent you have in your life,and you need GOD to be protecting him always and making him stronger so that he can be there for you.. So always pray to THE ALMIGHTY GOD.

7.RESPECT,SUPPORT AND CARE TO YOUR FATHER..
This is an important part of living with a single father,always show respect to your dad,and always be there to take care of him..Always show support in times of need and be there for him..


Trust me folks when u follow the few tips i have outlined you will live a life full of happiness like others have and u will know how to cope living with a single father....

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SOLVING FAMILY PROBLEMS..

Are you having some family problems? Are you having arguements with your family members which you think cant solve? Do you wish to have an oportunity to be on dr.phil,oprah or tyra show so that you may say out all your problems so that they are solved?

Well,NO NEED TO WISH because i will provide you with few tips which can help you solve any problem you have with your family or friends..

1.KNOW THE PROBLEM.
You should find out what the MAIN problem is..This is because you may think you are arguing about something that you know what it is,but in the long run,its another problem that is bringing up the arguement.so ALWAYS ..TRY TO FIGURE OUT,the MAIN PROBLEM CAUSING THE ARGUEMENT.

2.SIT AND DISCUSS THE PROBLEM.
When you now the problem,the next thing is to sit down and discuss the problem.



Discuss how the problem was brought up and ways of making things right..

3.THE ONE RESPONSIBLE SHOULD ADMIT THAT HE/SHE IS WRONG.
This is the tough part because everyone/anyone in this world does not LIKE to admit he/she is wrong.



So whoever did the mistake that brought up an arguement should admit he is wrong and take any necessary responsibility required.

4. FORGIVE.
As we all know we should always forgive those who wronged us.its part of human nature to do mistakes.


so whoever admitted he/she is wrong and took full responsiblity is allegible for forgiveness,because remember

FORGIVENESS IS NOT AN OPTION,ITS A MANDATE!
               
                                By mark hiehle..

The last IMPORTANT thing is to,

5.MAKE UP.




After solving everything what is required now is to make up :)
Go out for dinner or just do anything fun that will bring back the happy times you had.






If you follow these simple steps i gave to you,i guarantee that you will be able to solve your problems without any problems..

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How to cope living with a mother only..

Life has so much wonders but some of them make me wonder..Statistics say that 60% of most children are raised by single parents and mostly are single mothers.

But the questions i ask myself is are men heartless?? do they know how a father's love is important for the growth of a child?? what were they thinking making a woman pregnant and not getting involved with the child?????doesnt this cute child below deserve to have fatherly love?

Wel 4 me i have gone through that,not having a close father and its not the best feeling knowing a father figure is so close to you but yet so far away..But that is life n u get used to it..its not easy because u have to live life kinda different.

Anyway i'l outline few ways on how to cope living with a single mother:

1.ALWAYS THANK GOD

This is very very important 4 u having a single mother..ALWAYS thank GOD 4 giving u a mother..remember there are other children who would love to have the same mother u have so always remember to thank GOD

                                                                    

2.BE UNDERSTANDING

This is very very important..Remember a single mother raising a child or children isn't as easy as u the child may think..I know u may want something and your mum ends up telling u no,or she cant afford it,so when u are told this be UNDERSTANDING..things dont have to go your way,so dont end up abusing ur mum coz u may end up with curses,so always be understanding!!

3.BE APPRECIATIVE

Always be appreciative! never complain about anything u are given,,even if its little just appreciate coz that little u have been given,others don't have n would love 2 have so always be thankful..

remember when u be thankful or grateful for what u have u attract more good things you want in life.so always have THE ATTITUDE OF GRATITUDE..

4.BE LOVING TO YOUR MOTHER N ALWAYS MAKE HER HAPPY

This is very important if u want 2 live peacefully n a life full of blessing n happiness..NEVER make your mother sad or unhappy..remember without her u could have never been in this world! so show her the loving she deserves n ALWAYS make her happy

remember to make her proud of u and definetly you will live life without problems n she will be happy then when u ask 4 something,u will get it ;-)

5.DONT ASK MANY QUESTIONS ABOUT YOUR FATHER

Well this happens  to 55%of most teens living with their mothers only coz their fathers ignored them..and probably they gonna ask, "why shudn't i get 2 know my father?" or "he is still my father.he has a right 2 be in my life"

Well this is going 2 be hard 2 swallow but why do u want 2 get to know a person who clearly does not want to be in your life? If he did want to be in your life he could have never ignored you at the first place whatever the circumstance.. so what i would advice accoring to me is DONT ASK TOO MANY questions about your father coz u may end up getting hurt,  depressed,sad n THEN u will start BLAMING your mother for actions which were not her fault!! n this may bring tension between u and your mother..So i'd prefer u just let things be n dont ask many or if possible no question about your father..

6.GIVE RESPECT,SUPPORT AND CARE TO YOUR MOTHER

This are the very important aspects when living with a single mother..as we all know "respect your parents so that we may live longer"..so always listen to your mother because she is the only parent you have and ge grateful u have her.support her

in whatever the circumstance and always care for her..

Trust me folks when u follow the few tips i have outlined you will live a life full of happiness like i have and u will know how to cope living with a single mother....

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